This week, Tuesday, November 19, we marked the International Men’s Day. It is observed annually, and serves as a reminder of the significance of men’s roles in various global societies. This day provides an opportunity to reflect on the value men bring to their families, communities, and the world at large. It’s a celebration of the positive contributions men make, often quietly and without expectations of recognition. The day also acknowledges the challenges men face, from mental health issues to societal expectations, and seeks to create a more inclusive and uplifting ecosystem.
The importance of International Men’s Day cannot be overstated. Our world we live is one where traditional masculinity is often scrutinised, – this day offers a chance to re-evaluate and appreciate the qualities that make men unique. It’s an occasion to acknowledge the challenges men face, from toxic masculinity to emotional repression, and to work toward creating an empowering space. International Men’s Day affords us to promote a more nuanced understanding of masculinity, one that values vulnerability, empathy, and compassion. This, in turn, can help to break down harmful stereotypes and promote a more equitable society.
As a man myself, I deeply identify with the spirit of International Men’s Day. I draw inspiration from notable figures like Chief Obafemi Awolowo, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, and millions of other men who embodied the values of courage, compassion, and leadership. Their lives show us all the inspirational effect of men who work towards the greater good. As well, essays and writings from diverse thinkers are insights into the complexities of modern masculinity. Those works highlight the need for men to reclaim their emotional lives, to develop a deeper sense of empathy and compassion, and to cultivate heathier relationships with themselves and those around them.
I wish to particularly pay special tribute to Nigerian men, who tirelessly strive to provide for their families amidst the country’s economic challenges. These men are the unsung heroes who work diligently to make ends meet, often in the face of inequality and adversity. Their resilience and determination defines their strength and character. Men who work multiple jobs to provide for their families, or our great fathers and men who tirelessly toil the land in Oke-Ogun, Ibarapa, Oyo, or Ogbomoso, or entrepreneurs in Ibadan who innovate and create despite the odds, – Nigerian men are the example of determination and resilience. We celebrate these courageous individuals, who embody the truest spirit of International Men’s Day.
The understanding that both genders must work in harmony to build strong societies is sacrosanct and highly fundamental for everyone to embrace. Men, as strong as we can be, yearn for the love and support of women to thrive. This mutual support is vital for creating a balanced and equitable world. Indeed, we should acknowledge and appreciate the complementary roles men and women play to build an inclusive and supportive atmosphere. This interdependence is not limited to personal relationships; it also extends to the broader social and economic spheres. When men and women work together, they can achieve far more than they could alone, and drive progress and development in all areas of life.
I have no iota of doubt that the world is populated by men and women of integrity and character. I also believe so firmly that when men make positive contributions, it’s often because they’ve received support and encouragement from good women. Conversely, women’s achievements are frequently bolstered by the backing of good men. More often, we should recognise this interdependence, and work toward creating a more fairer world, a world where both men and women are able to attain the best available for them.
Let us recommit to being responsible citizens of the world. The reality of the world today pose to us the need to embrace a shared vision for positive change, to drive causes that serve humanity, – good governance, equality, and social justice. I have no doubt that men and women can work cohesively to build a brighter, optimistic, and more compassionate world, – but this requires a willingness to listen, to learn, and to grow together. I believe very strongly that we all have an opportunity to thrive, regardless of our gender, race, or background. Let’s keep pushing.
Amofin Beulah Adeoye
Friday, November 22, 2024